DEFENDING OUR FATHERS HOUSE (DOFH) recognizes that marriage unites a man and a woman with each other and any children born from their union. 

Children have a fundamental, natural right to know and be cared for by mother and father, as far as is possible. This right, by virtue of children’s vulnerability, dependency, and unique needs for survival and success, requires institutional safeguards that optimally protect the relationships of mother and father to each other and to their child(ren) so that they may best serve those needs and thrive as a family.

We invite you to join us in defending institutional marriage, children, spouses, and parents by first educating yourself, family members, and others about the issues concerning marriage. Strong, healthy marriages provide the vital foundation for families, neighborhoods, communities and nations. We ask you to invest your unique gifts, time and resources with us and other marriage advocates to establish the legal and institutional integrity of marriage, parenthood, and family life.

Please tell us how you would like to join this effort to defend marriage, family, and children.


Restoring Marriage & Family Life In Metro Detroit

Making It Happen  By Dr. Michael T. Ross   Motown, Murder town Capital of the United States, remains the most violent city in the land of the free and the home of the brave. How sad this is for our Great Lakes’ largest city still by far despite an accelerated loss of more than half her …

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DINNER FOR TWO (or More) Building Michigan’s Mission Field for Love   FRIDAY, JUNE 10, at 6:30 PM Please RSVP or order tickets no later than June 7.   Pasquales 31555 Woodward Ave Royal Oak, MI 48073 pasqualesrestaurant.com   Buffet dinner includes a choice of two entrees plus several pastas, bread, salad, and refreshments. We ask …

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ANALYSIS: Strong Families, Strong Society

Studies Confirm Importance of Marriage Rome,  November 08, 2015  (ZENIT.org)  Father John Flynn That healthy family life plays a vital role in the well-being of society is well established. A recent study provides ample detail regarding the economic impact of families. “Strong Families, Prosperous States: Do Healthy Families Affect the Wealth of State?” was a joint project …

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Restoring Marriage and Family Life 2015-2016

It’s November 2015. In 2016, Michigan’s largest congregation, nearly two million, gathers in Detroit for its 11th General Synod, the first such meeting since 1969―almost half a century ago. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas last year, the Catholic Church in Michigan declared 2015 The Year of Marriage. That’s a commitment to honor the “I do” of God’s first …

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Life Directions Fun[d] & Friend Raiser Event
November 7, 2015
2 – 5 p.m.

Marriage and family life is made especially for children and for young people of all ages. Sadly, too many start out in life in many of our cities like Detroit, Flint, Chicago, and Baltimore, with serious adversities and disadvantages, which may make home life challenging, painful, and often a place of sadness. Hope still abounds, …

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Supreme Court Overthrows United States

Should a child have a fundamental right to know his or her mom and dad and be cared for by them together? Should there be a public institution that specifically unites children with mom and dad and promotes their rearing by mom and dad together? The U.S. Supreme Court decided these questions definitively Friday June …

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Marriage Motown 2020

It’s 2015 Year of Marriage in Michigan. Marriage Motown 2020 begins in Detroit at 3745 Taylor St. & Dexter south of Davidson on July 10 at 2 p.m. As one couple renews their vows at 25 years, two inspired couples promise “I do” love you to have and hold in marriage for all God’s blessings. …

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Michigan Interfaith Prayer Assembly RESTORING MARRIAGE & FAMILY LIFE IN 2015 Dear Friends, Marriage is God’s first institution. It unites us as one human family. Man and woman across societies, cultures, races and religions become one with God, family, and community by their vocational vow, “I do.” America’s marriage rate has fallen to a hundred …

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2015 THE YEAR OF MARRIAGE Declares U.S. Archbishop  

Marriage Job One For Michigan By Dr. Michael T. Ross In this fifteenth year of the third Millennium, 2015, world attention converges on humanity’s clash with the natural male-female order of human life. Emboldened by pervasive passivity and indifference to the plight of children, a self-anointed tribe asserts its authority in a plethora of markets, …

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How Many Kids Grow Up With Their Married Mom and Dad?

Leslie Ford February 21, 2015 It’s not normal these days for a teen to live with their married mom and dad. Fifty-four percent of U.S. teens 15-to-17-years-old do not live in a home with their married mother and father, according to the Fifth Annual Index of Family Belonging and Rejection released this month by the Family Research …

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Anniversary of Moynihan Report Sparks Debate about Marriage in America

Metro Detroit marriage activists weigh In Dr. Daniel Patrick Moynihan’s landmark 1965 report linking unwed births with serious urban pathologies unleashed a stormy debate about marriage, and 50 years later the controversy continues. The Family Research Council (FRC) in Washington recalled Moynihan’s keen foresight with a press forum Feb. 12th. Minister and attorney Garland Hunt …

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Martin Luther King, Jr. Day Declaration

On Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, we stand up to defend these truths and their intimate relationship to the natural and civil rights of minor children: Marriage is the only institution that unites children with their mothers and fathers. It is the only institution that unites a man and a woman with each other and any children …

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Cardinal Kasper’s Challenge Distracts from the Real Problem

STEPHEN BASKERVILLE As the Synod of Bishops on the Family convenes this week, the Catholic Church has a heaven-sent opportunity to atone for one of the biggest failures in modern ecclesiastical history and in so doing to take a major step in resuscitating the Christian faith in the daily lives of millions of people. The provocative challenge …

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Hundreds attend prayer ceremony for life at State Capitol

Posted on September 9, 2014 by Katie This past Saturday, I was honored to speak at a prayer assembly before hundreds of people on the steps of the Michigan State Capitol.  The purpose was to pray for the three spiritual battles in our country: religious liberty, the right to life, and traditional marriage. From right to left: Me with my …

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Restoring Marriage & Family in 2014:
Hope for Highland Park & America

Dear Friend, Marriage, God’s first institution, offers firm foundation for healthy, fruitful lives. Children raised by Mom & Dad’s committed love in two-parent households enjoy safer, healthier childhoods. They do better in school. Married couples live longer. They support and enjoy each other more. Well-being and peace supplant addiction and despair. We see the results …

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Capitol Steps Solemn Prayer Assembly

September 6, 2014 2:00 – 4:00 p.m. [Show slideshow]   This Solemn Prayer Assembly summons God’s people to Michigan’s Capitol Steps in Lansing on Sat. Sept. 6 from 2:00 – 4:00 p.m. to pray for grace & guidance: To Heal our land To Uphold the sanctity of human life and vanquish the culture of death …

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Is It All Over In America For Childhood With A Married Mom & Dad?

By Michael T. Ross, M.D   Marriage is the civil rights issue of our day.  Suddenly, in little over a decade, America’s powers and principalities, guardians of law, the legal profession, and our judicial branch, have advanced an inscrutably dark agenda for marriage and family life.  Throughout our nation, this agenda has lead to an …

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Working-class marriage rate hurt by weak church efforts

WASHINGTON D.C., July 30 (CNA/EWTN News).   A “national retreat” from marriage could worsen social divides between the married and unmarried and plummeting rates are partly due to religious groups failing to reach the working class, says one scholar. “We have seen that Catholic and mainline Protestant churches have not been successful in reaching poor …

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Panel at a conference supporting marriage held Monday at the Islamic House of Wisdom in Dearborn Heights. (Left to right) Imam Mohammad Ali Elahi, head of the mosque, Rev. Nick Phillips, marriage pastor at NorthRidge church in Plymouth, Jim Thienel, chairman of Oakland County Republican Party. / Niraj Warikoo/DFP

Protect traditional marriage, say religious leaders at Dearborn Heights conference

By Niraj Warikoo Detroit Free Press Staff Writer 12:06 AM, April 8, 2014 A group of religious leaders gathered in a Dearborn Heights mosque today to promote traditional marriage, saying that the growing number of out-of-wedlock births and increasing divorce rate are weakening society. The clergy members, which included Christians, Muslims and at least one Jewish …

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Metro Detroit Interfaith Conference for Clergy & Community Leaders Hosted at Islamic House of Wisdom

By Vic Faust Apr 8, 2014 SOUTHFIELD (wxyz) – The 2014 Restoring Marriage & Family Life Conference was hosted at the Islamic House of Wisdom in Dearborn Heights.  Action News Anchor Vic Faust was the emcee for this event.  Religious leaders from all over the area, specifically Detroit, came together to put a five-year plan in …

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Restoring Marriage & Family Life in 2014

    Listen to the Talk 760 AM WJR Detroit April 3, 2014 Interview with Dr. Michael T. Ross     Metro Detroit Interfaith Conference for Clergy & Community Leaders   Dear Friends in Faith, Marriage and family, God’s first institution, unites us as one human family. The vocational vow, “I do” unites all societies, cultures, …

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Detroit family household today. Where has marriage gone?

Renewed hope for Motown, marriage

By Dr. Michael T. Ross, The Detroit News For decades, Michigan’s leaders have trumpeted great plans to revitalize Metro Detroit. Compelling physical structures have transformed the Detroit skyline, such as the Renaissance Center, Riverfront Towers, One Detroit Center, Lions and Tiger stadiums, 150 W. Jefferson, Greektown Casino Hotel and Westin Book Cadillac, to name a few. …

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Barney Field: Detroit learns from our ‘miracle’

By Barney Field / Guest columnist / El Paso Times POSTED:   03/23/2014 12:00:00 AM MDT Detroit clergy are curious about why El Paso is the safest large city while their city continues to be the most dangerous. They have graciously invited me to speak on “The El Paso Miracle” at a conference on April …

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Marriage & Family Facts USA

Census 2010 Household Data American Fact Finder[1] National Data 1950 National Data:        Married households – 78.0% Percentage of unwed births:[2]  3.9% Population: 150,697,361 1960 National Data:        Married households – 74.3%[3] Percentage of unwed births:[4]  5.3% Percent of children living with two married parents:  85.0%[5] Percent of children living with mother only:  8.0% Percent of children …

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Which Parent Do I Not Need – My Mom or My Dad?

By Mike McManus Grace Evans, an 11-year-old, asked Minnesota legislators last month: “Which parent do I not need – my mom or my dad?”  No one answered her. She paused 8 seconds, and added, “I hope you can see that every child needs a mom and a dad. Please don’t change your law on marriage …

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Broken Family Law: Guidelines and Fixes

“The rights of man come not from the generosity of the state, but from the hand of God.”[i]  John F. Kennedy 1961 Since John F. Kennedy spoke these inaugural words, out-of-wedlock births skyrocketed from 5.3% to 40.6% of all births (by 2008) as society abandoned marriage. In just five decades, the United States has established …

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Marriage: What It Is, Why It Matters, and the Consequences of Redefining It

Abstract Marriage is based on the truth that men and women are complementary, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the reality that children need a mother and a father. Redefining marriage does not simply expand the existing understanding of marriage; it rejects these truths. Marriage is society’s least …

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Marriage: America’s Greatest Weapon Against Child Poverty

Abstract: Child poverty is an ongoing national concern, but few are aware that its principal cause is the absence of married fathers in the home. Marriage remains America’s strongest anti-poverty weapon, yet it continues to decline. As husbands disappear from the home, poverty and welfare dependence will increase, and children and parents will suffer as a …

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Clergy Leaders of Major Faiths United On Meaning of Marriage & Protecting It

WASHINGTON (December 6, 2010) — Leaders of some of the largest religious communities in the United States are united and committed to defend marriage and its historic and traditional definition. On December 6, 2010, leaders from Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Evangelical, Jewish, Lutheran, Mormon, Orthodox, Pentecostal and Sikh communities in the United States affirmed the importance …

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Marriage and the Public Good: Ten Principles

In recent years, marriage has weakened, with serious negative consequences for society as a whole. Four developments are especially troubling: divorce, illegitimacy, cohabitation, and same-sex marriage. The purpose of this document is to make a substantial new contribution to the public debate over marriage. Too often the rational case for marriage is not made at …

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